• Off Limits

    Date: 2011.06.23 | Category: book review, parenting | Tags: ,

    I finished reading a book yesterday that literally made me sick to my stomach.  I could hardly stand to turn each page, and yet I pressed on through the end.  Off Limits: A Parent’s Guide to Keeping Kids Safe from Sexual Abuse was so difficult to read, yet contained such important information that it was worth the effort.  Written by Sandy K. Wurtele and Feather Berkower, two child sexual abuse prevention professionals, this book explains how abuse occurs, and debunks many of the myths surrounding molestation.  In this generation, when as many as 1 in 8 children are sexually abused, it is worth knowing steps that I can take to protect my children and to recognize signs of abuse in other children.

    Written in a straightforward manner, with lots of references, personal stories, resources, and ideas to safeguard your family, this book was both informative and practical.  A lot of attention was paid to teaching parents how to raise their children to be body safe and how to encourage open communication about our bodies and sex.  Much of this book covered children and the relationships they have with trusted authority figures, since these are the relationships with the most risks and opportunities for abuse to occur.  Parents are given boundaries to set for the relationships your child has and are given techniques to discourage would be abusers.  Parents are also given specific rules to teach their children about body safety and the importance of having a no secret policy in place in your family.

    I found this book to be well written and very informative and practical.  I checked my copy out from the library, but went ahead and made photo copies (as encouraged by the authors!) of several pages near the back with rules and guidelines that I can institute in our home.  I highly recommend this book for all parents and for teachers and others who work with children.